Being a parent for the first time is no joke. I don’t envy those of you holding tiny babies right now that are going through this brand new. While my postpartum recovery seems to get worse after each baby, the babies themselves? They keep getting easier. Also, I think I just keep getting better at […]

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  • Kerrin - Well this was just so lovely. And so so so true. What a good post!!ReplyCancel

  • Maria Moser - I only have 3 but even with my third, the doc office questions about sleep and eating & diapers were so stressful for me! Knowing an appointment was coming up, I’d start stressing about what I’d say and trying to pay more attention!ReplyCancel

  • Liz - Thanks for this. My son is 3 weeks old and man do I feel overwhelmed.ReplyCancel

  • Julia Goodman - Thank you so much for this post! Very informative! ???ReplyCancel

I think it’s always fun to hear how people come up with baby names, so I thought it would be cool to share how we came up with all 4 of ours with you. I actually really dislike naming babies. It’s a lot of pressure! We always end up with names that I love, though. […]

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  • Molly - We always had one boy name and one girl name picked out and lucked out that our first two were different genders ( Daniel Mark – after our fathers – and Morgan Grace – after my grandmothers). Then we got pregnant with our third and could not decide on anything. We weren’t going to find out gender, but our then 3 year old son latched on to the name Irene (in contention for a middle name) and decided my baby was a girl, so we felt we had to find out gender so there wasn’t huge confusion for him – turned out to be a boy! I knew I wanted Anthony as a middle name, for my brother a,d grandfather. We went through a lot of family names and finally settled on Andrew after my husband’s uncle. Baby naming is hard, especially since we really tried to limit ourselves to family names. If there is a baby number 4 in the cards, things could get interesting!ReplyCancel

  • Julia Wallace - I got all my names from tv shows Conner, Avery , RowanReplyCancel

  • Erica - Son #1 was the only child that got a name off of the high school “baby names ” list. He is Braden Scott. Son #2 was to be Cale McKenzie…my granny kept asking why I’d name my kid Kayro…so Brett McKenzie he became. Daughter was to be Rhian Nicole…ex husband vetoed it from the start then we settled on Chaney ReaLynn…only to deliver in November of 2000 with Dick Chaney as the vice presidential candidate…so she is named Kennedy Lynn…we call her KenniReplyCancel

  • Carolyn - Names are HARD. We took all 9mos too, every time.

    Daughter 1: Meredith Jaymes. We liked Meredith, and how it sounded with our 1-syllable last name. Considered Kathryn too, but she was Meredith (nn Mere). Middle is after my dad, but with a “y” to feminize it.

    Son: Nolan Curtis. My favorite book is A Tree Grows in Brooklyn and I always loved Nolan, the heroine’s surname. He was nearly Lincoln, which was hubby’s favorite but Nolan fit better and Lincoln was getting trendy. Curtis for my husband’s dad.

    Daughter 2: Felicity Quinn. We just liked Felicity, and the meaning: happy. Middle name (stay with me here) has the prefix “qui” meaning “five.” Her addition made us a family of five–“the happy five.”

    Daughter 3: Beatrice Noel. We struggled to find ANY names we could agree on. I loved Reeve, he liked Eliza or Juliet. We kicked around Kathryn again. Then one day, I woke up and KNEW she was Beatrice, who is my ailing 94-yr-old grandmother I am very close with. Why have I not used it before now?! Her nickname is Bea. My son was disappointed in the idea of another sister so we decided to let him choose the middle. The week before she was born, we had a big snowstorm and I looked up “winter baby names.” Nolan saw Noel and got excited–it started with the same letters as his name! And his favorite band, NSYNC, sings The First Noel ? We chose the masculine spelling since that has been our unintentional trend with the girls–feminine first, masculine middle.

    I love hearing the stories behind baby names! Great post ?ReplyCancel

  • Maeghan Lovejoy - #1 Caroline Grace – I loved the name Grace but couldn’t use that as a first name. Hello Grace Love Joy. Might as well put her middle name as Faith or hope 😛 We found Caroline b/c I loved how classic it was and it didn’t help that my husband and I met on a blind date at Fenway for Game @ of the World Series. “Sweet Caroline….”

    #2 George Willis ~ George has been my go to for ages. It honors my dad, brother, uncles on both sides of family and my grandfather. Willis is my husband’s first name (he goes by his middle) and my father in laws name. I wasn’t entirely crazy about it, I wanted Henry. But I love it now and find so many Henry’s out there so I’m glad we went with Willis. So now we got over the GW Bridge and he gets a good giggle over it.ReplyCancel

  • Heather - My sister (Hollie) and I grew up with a family the had 4 children, all with “H” names. We wanted to keep that going, but there aren’t too many options out there without repeating. My first is named Hannah Corinne. The name Hannah works too because she is a woman from the Bible that begged God for a child and it struck a chord with me after we had some fertility issues. Her middle name is a nod to my great grandmother Cora. (3 years later, my sister named her daughter Harper and all 4 of us share the same first and last initials, even though we have different last names!)
    Baby 2 was a boy and I wasn’t really sold on any boy “H” names. I already know several Haydens and my sister had already called dibs on Hunter. Didn’t really care for any others. So we decided it could just be a girl thing in our family. My husband’s best friend growing up passed away when we were in high school and we always knew we liked his middle name, Nathan. Toss that with the family name James (my husband’s middle name, my grandfather’s, uncle’s, cousin’s and my cousin’s son’s first name) and we had a winner. I still wasn’t totally sold on Nathan James, because I really, really liked the name Adam Scott (Scott after my dad), but his initials would have been A.S.S. and that’s just not cool, lol! Now I can’t imagine calling him anything else. Bonus: I didn’t realize I essentially gave my children the same name until I had them tattooed on my wrist. There’s only 1 letter difference in Hannah and Nathan.ReplyCancel

  • Tracey - Our eldest is Jonathan Daniel, nicknamed Jack. I really wanted to name him after my grandfather’s brother Jack, and I wanted to use my father’s name as his middle name. But, I couldn’t bring myself to put Jack Daniel on a birth certificate. So Jonathan it was. Our youngest is Henry Edward. Henry is a family name many generations back, and Edward is my husband’s brother and his father’s middle name. His uncle Ed lovingly refers to him as H. Edward.ReplyCancel

  • Whitney - Our first son’s name is Jace Wayne. I liked the name Chase for a boy, my husband liked Jacie for a girl…so we put them together. His middle name was going to be Layne, but my husband’s middle name is Wayne, so we went with it.

    Second son is Weston Koye. My middle name is Kaye, so we just went with my initials and switched up my middle name a bit.

    Third son is Jett Wayde. Again, husband’s initials, and just changed up his middle name a bit. Jett is also a name that I loved when I was pregnant with Jace, so I was SO happy to get to use it!

    Our initials alternate JWL/WKL. Gotta reuse that monogrammed stuff somehow! 😉 Now if I can just convince my husband that we need just ONE more boy…..haha!ReplyCancel

  • Amanda Jackson - Atticus, Winfield, Gatsby, Amory, Landon, AugustusReplyCancel

  • Sarah B - We named my son just before we found out his gender. We picked a girl name and a boy name. He’s Quentin Richard. Richard was not negotiable because that was my husbands father’s middle name. We wanted less popular names. If he had been a girl his name would have been Quinn Marie. Quinn because popular right about his birth. I’m glad he was a boy.

    My daughter was also named just before we found out her gender. We chose the name Cordelia as we were just looking around at older girls names. Her middle name Marie is my mom’s middle name. If she was a boy she would have been named Elijah Henry.ReplyCancel

  • Kelsey - Drew Isaiah- husband’s name is Andy (Andrew) which inspired first name. Isaiah from my favorite book of the Bible.

    Owen Anders- just liked the first name, and Anders is from my maiden name Anderson.

    Linnea Ruby- Scandinavian name we’ve both loved forever. Her big brothers picked her middle name completely at random and we were pleasantly surprised!ReplyCancel

  • tabitha - Love this! Glad you shared this because I’ve always wondered about how all your babies have ‘L’ in their name. ?ReplyCancel

  • tara - Our oldest daughter is Sloan Noelle. Her first name is from the character on the tv show entourage! I fell in love with it before my husband and I got married! Middle name was just because it sounded pretty and girlie 🙂

    Our youngest daughter is Rowan Amelia. At first, my husband had vetoed the name before we were even pregnant even though I loved it. So we settled on the name Perrie Elise…until we realized her initials would be PEE ?…plus I never knew how it should be spelled…the name was all wrong!! About a month before she was born hubby brought Rowan back up and said he changed his mind and I knew instantly that was her name!

    Now I want another baby to name after staring at your IG feed ha!ReplyCancel

  • Sarah - Ours have a bit of a pattern, at first unintentionally but became the tradition by the last. First name is a traditional Norwegian name, spelling and all, as my husband’s family is all Norwegian descent. His grandparents are where we got our first two. Each child had 2 middle names. With our first we could not agree at all what middle name to give him. My husband has a gigantic soft spot for all thing superhero. I love family names. So we settled on one middle name being a superhero tribute and the other one from my side of the family. Well that got interesting by the third child! We have pretty much ruined any chance of their names being spelled right by any one ever the first time.
    First child, our son, our trendsetter, Thorbjorn Parker Neil
    Our first daughter, our easiest to name,
    Solveig Elizabeth Kal-el
    Our last child, the one that got off easy,
    Liv Pepper Aubrey

    Yeah, with their parents names being as common as it gets, they will have something to commiserate about in therapy.ReplyCancel

  • Michelle - My daughter is Jillian Paige. My favorite name was Claire, but because it rhymes with our last name, it was not an option. Jillian was a name we could both agree on, but my husband wanted it spelled with a G instead of a J, which I said was ridiculous because she would obviously be called Jill. Finally, I emailed him at work one day and told him her name was going to be Jillian Paige, and he replied, “Ok.” Not a super exciting story, but she was aptly named, because she is 100% a Jill. Many people have told me how well her name fits her, which makes me extremely happy.ReplyCancel

  • Kim - Love that you considered June as my older daughter is June Lilly. June is the month I was born and I wanted a flower middle name (mine is Rose). My younger daughter is Maggie Pearl. I think we just like Maggie because we could nickname her Magpie. And I didn’t have a flower that flowed with it so I settled on a stone (the month of June’s birthstone). So I have a Junebug and Magpie 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Michelle - Caroline was a nice, classic Southern name that we could agree on. Grace is my grandma and great-grandmother’s name. So she’s Caroline Grace. Kinda common, but we love it. Denver, though. His is more of a story. Denver Guthrie is my husband’s grandfather’s name. Jay is Jay Denver. His uncle is also a Denver. Jay wanted to name a boy Denver Guthrie. His dad is Donald Jaboy (Jay-boy). I just loved Jay’s dad and joked we would name a boy Denver Jaboy. Well, ya know, little D came at 29weeks and we hadn’t decided. I was high on Magnesium and Morphine in the hospital when they came with the name paperwork. I said ‘Fuck it! Give him ALL THE NAMES!’ So he is Denver Guthrie Jaboy Nolan. My father in law got a kick out of it. He’s no longer with us and I’m so glad it worked out the way it did!ReplyCancel

  • Amber - We named our daughter Alexa 2 months before Amazon Echo came out. I keep hoping that product will die.ReplyCancel

Be sure to read Part 1 first! Scott got to the hospital a little after I got checked into a labor room. I think sometime around 8:30. He was excited to discover a Blues hockey game on TV. We cut cable long ago, and he usually has to listen to the game via a radio […]

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  • Baby Rabies | The Labor Before The Labor Story – Wallace’s Birth Story Part 1 - […] « Deep Thoughts About Wine And RoutineI Can Still Do Hard Things- Wallace’s Birth Story Part 2 » […]ReplyCancel

  • Nuria Vicens Lucchetti - Thank you for this birth story! It reminds me a lot of the anxiety I felt during my second. I’m currently pregnant with our third and those “I can’t do this” thoughts have started creeping up once again. I really needed to hear this! Thank you, thank you, thank you!ReplyCancel

  • Julie Forbes - I’m so proud of you! You’re a BA. And, omg, water breaking in public was always my (never-realized) worst pregnancy fear. And, yes, the bag of waters sooooo cushions the contractions. Mine didn’t break with Booker until the second before he came out. It’s the only way I made it through. I hope you’re adjusting to life with four 😉ReplyCancel

  • Tricia - I have to email you. I cried-I’m talking bawling like an idiot-through Wallace’s birth story. Because it was like you were in my brain. It’s eerie how similarly I’ve felt this entire pregnancy about my upcoming birth. Baby #4 and I’ve never been this fearful. I fought, just like you said, to feel empowered and confident and I fail. Daily. You give me strength through sharing your feelings, what your pregnancy and birth brought up in you. You make me feel like maybe, just maybe, I can still do hard things, too. I wish I could hug you because today you made me fear and terror a little less palpable.ReplyCancel

  • Kari - What a beautiful story! Our 4 kids are teenagers/college-aged now (16, 18, 20, 23) and reading your story made me revisit the times when we were at the hospital having babies and raising little ones. I found myself crying while reading…it seems so long ago but also just like yesterday. Blessings to you and your family!ReplyCancel

So there I was, 4 days overdue. I had an NST at my midwife’s office, and after trying to get him to stay still long enough for a good enough reading (the nurse noted that he was the most active post-dates baby she’d ever tried to monitor), they noticed one heart decel that made my […]

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I went to Target today with Wallace. It was our first solo trip there, and it felt good to return to normal life a little bit. My purchases could not scream “I just had a baby” more: pads, chocolate, baby wipes, newborn pacifiers, wine. This post is sponsored by Talk Early. I am honored to […]

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  • Lisa - So, I sit here nervously wondering if I should type this or not….

    I think it would be worth talking to someone about whether or not two glasses of wine every night is the best idea for someone with a family history of alcoholism and a history of PPA. I say this as someone with a family history of alcoholism, too. I don’t want you to feel judged. I don’t even know if it’s ill-advised or not, but I did feel my…spidey sense?…tingle a bit when I read it. I worry about you. I want you to take care of yourself, and don’t want you to deny yourself a break, some relaxation. But what you describe, kinda sounds like you use the wine to help you unwind. Maybe I didn’t get what you were saying, but it didn’t sound like you had a glass of wine with dinner every night, because you enjoyed the taste of the wine with the meal. It sounded more like you needed (maybe too strong a word?) the wine to relax, that you rely on it.

    Addiction is sneaky and insidious. I’m glad that you are hyperaware of it, but I do wonder why you wouldn’t just…not drink? Wouldn’t that be the easiest thing to do? Or just drink when you are out to dinner, or with friends. Seems the easiest thing to do for someone with a family history. Once it starts becoming routine, well, then that’s where it can get tricky, right?

    Okay, I’ve said enough. Too much maybe. I don’t pretend to have any answers or know what’s right, or right for you. I say all of this out of caring.ReplyCancel

  • Tricia - Your dance moves were crazy good for being that pregnant. I am heartily impressed.ReplyCancel

  • Tricia - Because you’re always so honest, I will be too.

    I’m a recovering addict. I hurt my knee in college and gained a nasty addiction to pain pills. It took years to finally realize that I couldn’t take them at all, ever. I was a functioning addict and you’d have never known if we’d have met then.

    All this to say, I think it’s amazing you’re partnering with Responsibility dot org and I think that having a glass or two of wine at night is totally acceptable. I also come from a very long line of addicts, and having a glass every night is the same as having it with dinner: you’re partaking in something you enjoy with caution and responsibly. You’re aware of your history and you are the best expert on your own life. People that only drink when out to dinner or just when out with friends could be alcoholics too, it’s all about whether you let that glass of wine at night dictate your life. And you don’t.

    You’re a rockstar mom and I’m so grateful that I’ve followed you for so long. Because you always choose honesty and you always bare your soul openly, and that is tough to do these days. Thank you for showing moms that there is absolutely a way to drink wine responsibly, and that it’s okay to enjoy a glass while doing homework with one kiddo and juggling whatever else the other 3 are doing. #yaywineReplyCancel

Going into my 2nd, 3rd, and 4th pregnancies, I always reminded myself that my body was made for this- that it had done all this before. I also reminded myself that that was never a guarantee it would do it the same again. Sort of a hope for the best, prepare for the worst kind […]

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  • Kimberly - The. Exact. Same. Thing. Happened. To. Me.
    They could not figure it out.
    However mine peeled and I oozed and I looked like a really bad burn victim in spots. I had to wrap my entire stomach. 2 weeks in I had to stop breastfeeding because it was severe enough that I needed steroids – over 2 months of it. Triggered the worst insomnia, made PPD worse. OMG. Looking at your rash, I am panicking. I know. I just know. It’s awful. I don’t know what to do because it was a blur.
    Just Be good to you – lean on others. Pie. Cookies. Cake. Sleep if you can. Xo
    Ps. They tested everything. I’m allergic to goats. Fuck the doctor who rubbed a goat before walking in the delivery room 😉ReplyCancel

  • Dani - Having a baby isn’t for the faint of heart and you are a warrior for doing it FOUR times. Seriously. I bow down to you and hope you round the corner soon.ReplyCancel

  • cori - Thanks for once again being so honest about it all with your wonderful sense of humor!!ReplyCancel

  • Brittany - I had the same rash!!! All over …it started in my stretch marks under my belly and on my hips and spread like wildfire! My doctor prescribed me an 8oz tube of steroid cream and a ” hope this helps” comment and I wanted to throw it at him! 8 oz lasted me half a day and then I had to beg the pharm to get him to refill it! It took about three months for it to go away and I had to do the same thing…just lotion like crazy. My only idea is that I’m O neg and my son is O+ so maybe my body reacted to him some way…idk …either way I’ve got 2 years to be hive free before we start this journey again! Was it worth it? Hell ya! But man those hives are a sucky addition to everything else you’re already going through! I feel ya! God bless!ReplyCancel

  • Tricia - Oh, Jill. I am so, so sorry. That rash looks so fucking angry and painful. Like you need THAT on top of just normal postpartum shit. The most wonderful thing though? You never have to do it again. Ever.ReplyCancel

  • Baby Rabies | If I Knew Then What I Know Now - […] envy those of you holding tiny babies right now that are going through this brand new. While my postpartum recovery seems to get worse after each baby, the babies themselves? They keep getting […]ReplyCancel

World (Wide Web), meet Wallace Austin Krause. Born December 21st at 4:59 am, after a mostly short and intense med-free labor, weighing in at 9.1 lbs and measuring 21.5 inches long. I have SO much to tell you about him, about me, about 4 kids. But for now, I rest.. and cry because postpartum healing […]

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  • Kelly - If it helps at all, you’re basically my mommy hero. I wish I were together enough to have such beautiful photos of my babies…And I have half the children you do. You’re awesome cause you’re real, and I hope you have an easier postpartum time on this go around. Sending ?ReplyCancel

  • Kelly - Oops, that ? Was supposed to be a heart. 😉ReplyCancel

  • Maria Moser - He looks just like Lowell in the 2nd to last pic! Congrats!ReplyCancel

  • Jaclyn M - Oh my gosh…. he is just the cutest! What a great addition to your adorable family! Congratulations!ReplyCancel

  • Caroline - Postpartum healing is the worst! I always say that it is worse than the labor and delivery itself! I got 2 UTI’s and 2 Bacterial Vaginosis infections during recovery. The pits!!!ReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - Congratulations! He is a beautiful boy!ReplyCancel

Confession: As this pregnancy has progressed, it’s been harder and harder to be a mom who cares about things like my children’s grooming and hygiene habits.  Every now and then I’ll get a whiff of one and wonder aloud, “But when WAS the last time you bathed?” Whoops. As much as I’m mostly okay letting […]

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  • Dani - YES! My kids also seem to forget this. EVERY. day. After they’ve gotten ready for bed, I ask “Did you brush your teeth?”, all I get is shocked looks in return, like they have never seen a toothbrush before. We also have all the flavors of toothpaste for them to choose from, they kind of just pick their favorite of the day. Another thing we do to make life easier is have MANY toothbrushes going at once. Each kid has at least 4 going at once, and they select their proper character before they brush. It’s kind of ridiculous, but it works! Does Hello make a mouthwash? We also use that “pink stuff” to help their stinky breath, but I’m sure it’s full of crappy stuff. Our Target just rolled out all the flavors of the toothpaste, maybe I just haven’t seen a mouthwash?ReplyCancel