On vacation, I mean. I really believe in the beauty of the one-at-a-time vacation.
2 years ago, I was able to take Kendall with me (and my mom joined us) to Disney World for a few days while I was speaking at a conference there. It made me fall in love with Disney, and I couldn’t wait to bring my ENTIRE FAMILY back. And I did. Last October all 5 of us, my sister, my brother, my sister in law, my mom, my step brother, my dad, and my step mom all went back to Disney World for 7 days.
Don’t get me wrong, it was an amazing, once-in-a-lifetime experience. We loved it. It was also an incredible ass kicking.
Of course, family vacations serve a great purpose of experiencing things as, well, a family. But sometimes it’s really nice to experience them as only part of the family, too.
That solo trip with Kendall wasn’t just great because I didn’t have to keep him from pinching his sister while in line for Splash Mountain. I got to do exactly what he wanted to do most, and we didn’t have to mess with the rest. We had a Disney trip that went beyond Princesses, and he loved it.
Last weekend I had the joy (and privilege- I get that this isn’t something a lot of people get to do), of doing a solo Disney (land) trip with Leyna. I kept my expectations really low, and then we blew them out of the water. We had an incredible time.
Just like my solo trip with Kendall, I was able to do exactly what she was interested in doing. We were there with a friend (Morgan of The818 & Buzzfeed) and her daughter, who is Leyna’s age. They both, mostly, were interested in and wanted to do the same things. It made the day 99% less stressful.
No rollercoasters? No problem. We met fairies and watched parades instead. (Kendall couldn’t stand sitting still for parades.)
And we even got to relax at the Bibbity Bobbity Boutique with no boys trying to hurry us along.
Try not to feel too bad for the boys we left at home. Scott and Kendall finally got the rest of the mulch spread. (That’s the part that was really exciting for Scott.) And then they went to Six Flags together and rode all the scary rides a little sister would never try.
Lowell? He’s living his best life on my mom’s ranch this week. A week of tractors and bulldozers is much more fun to him than anything Disney has to offer right now.
Scott and I talked about how this one-on-one vacation approach – even with him taking Kendall to Six Flags just here in Dallas – makes so much more sense for us right now. Sure, he and I don’t get to enjoy these places together, but then again I sort of feel like there should be a Marriage Counseling ride at Disney because I would not classify it as romantic when you are there with 3 children.
Considering we’ll have 4 kids by this time next year, and taking 4 kids and two adults on vacation is insanely expensive, I think we’ll do more of these individualized trips over the coming years. It can be fun to spend 1-2 days at Disney (and other places, I imagine) with one child at a time instead of bringing the whole crew for a week.
I’d love to hear if you’ve had success with this and some of your favorite places to visit! If not, tell me where you’d like to go with just one of your children.