The other day Kendall was doing homework, and I was like, “Holy crap. You’re, like, learning stuff. “
I mean, y’all, he was adding and subtracting in his head, which is fascinating because just yesterday I was correcting him when he made the wrong sound when asked “What does the pig say?” while changing his diaper.
It’s also WONDERFUL because this is stuff that other people are teaching him. Not me. I’m not the one doing the teaching.
I had a conference with his teacher last week, and we discussed all the usual things.
We wrapped up by touching on his behavior. She reports he’s a happy, kind kid with a lot of energy, but he mostly stays on track… with some gentle reminders here and there.
It’s a HUGE improvement over where he was a year ago, as evidenced by all the green (good behavior) days in his calendar.
Last year, it was typical for him to get about 2 yellow days a week. It became the norm, and we discussed it with him and always tried to work on it, but he was getting marks for things like talking in line and at lunch, and I just wasn’t going to make a huge deal over things that, to me, were the result of an energetic little boy adjusting to the rigor of a 7 hour school day.
This year, for the entire first nine weeks, he hasn’t had a single yellow day. Not one!
BUT there was this one day when he thought he did….
“He came home, SO disappointed in himself and mad. He cried…” I explained to his teacher.
“Oh my goodness. I’m so sorry to hear that!” she said sympathetically.
“Oh! No, don’t be!” I replied with glee then continued, “It was AMAZING. He actually felt regret for his actions! I love that he cried. It means he’s probably not a psychopath, right?”
As it turns out, he didn’t even get a yellow that day. He was just super close, and it was a miscommunication.
Earlier in the school year, I told him I’d give him $50 toward the new Sklyanders Trap Team game if he got all green days for the whole 9 weeks, thinking he OBVIOUSLY WOULD NOT DO THAT.
So, it’s possible he was more upset that he wouldn’t get the money for the game than that his behavior faltered, but whatever. Whatever!
He has a soul! He has regrets and actually gives fucks sometimes! Big moment around here, y’all. Huge.
The fact that he cried over the one (almost) yellow day means so much more to me than the 9 weeks of green days. Hooray emotions!