5 years ago, I imagined we’d escape to a tropical island, or maybe Italy… or Greece, anywhere but the ‘burbs of Dallas for our 5 year anniversary. I dreamed of getting another diamond band to stack on top of my engagement ring and wedding band.
5 years ago, we were DINKs (dual income, no kids) living in an apartment. Now, we’re a single income family of 4, taking on home renovations.
The budget wasn’t there to do anything elaborate for our 5 year anniversary. It wasn’t anything like I imagined it would be 5 years ago.
When I shared our wedding pictures last week, there was a picture of our soda bar. Scott and I never got to drink any of those sodas (Dublin Dr Peppers and Mexican Cokes) or any of their flavorings (cherries, vanilla, limes, peanuts), and we’ve always talked about what a shame that was. It was one of our favorite parts of the celebration, but we just didn’t have time to enjoy it.
So I recreated it.
And then we, along with Kendall, toasted to 5 years…
We celebrated with a trip to the park as a family. Leyna went down a tiny slide by herself for the first time. We ate bagels at Panera. We took the extra long way home, window shopping for new houses… ones that don’t need any renovations. We listened to kids screaming and whining most the day. We took them with us to dinner at Outback Steakhouse, where Kendall built houses out of the coasters and Leyna threw more food on the floor than any of us had left on our plate by the end of the night.
The Hallmark card I gave Scott read:
Someday, many years from now, we’ll look back on this crazy time in our life together and wonder how we did it all… and then, those ordinary, everyday moments that we often take for granted will shimmer like stars as we recount them… I’ll sit close beside you, you’ll take my hand in yours. We’ll look at each other and say: “I’d do it all again… and I wouldn’t change a thing.”
And then I wrote on the inside, “I’m sorry this card is so sappy! But it’s SO true!” because I know he much prefers the Shoebox cards for their humor.
But, I couldn’t help but feel that card so perfectly summed up this time in our lives.
We’ll have time for kid-free vacations to exotic locations eventually. Years from now, we won’t have to invest so much money in our kids, we won’t still be paying hospital bills from the birth of a new baby. One day, we’ll have all the free time in the world, we’ll have silence. But, for now, we have chaos and noise; we have sticky baby fingers and a daredevil toddler; we have a home and our health; we have each other, it’s enough, and I wouldn’t change a thing.