Karma is Cracking Her Knuckles

And getting ready to BRING IT.

All the drama, the boyfriends, the prom dresses, the makeup, the bad hair day meltdowns, the slammed doors, the (INSERT MORE DRAMATICS HERE)- it’s all coming for me.

It’s. A. Girl! (Also, and most importantly, she looks 100% healthy!)

The tech said she was really, very confident and I had her scan and re-scan that general area several times. Nothing. Not a hint of anything boyish that way. It’s totally a girl.

So, YAY! RuffleButts!

And HOORAY pillowcase dresses and adorable collections from Gymboree!

I’m not ready to embrace all pink. It’s just not in me, but I can warm up to purple, I think. Pretty sure the nursery is going to start with a PB&J inspired color palette of dark purple and light brown with a bit of white thrown in.

And names? Well, don’t even ask. We haven’t even discussed it, and I’m fine with that. We may very well not settle on anything until she’s born anyway, just like we did with Kendall.

I know she most likely will have a birthday very close to Christmas (with a due date of 12/24), but I’m actually excited about what that entails, at least for the first few years. We can have cookie decorating parties and ornament making parties. And then when she’s old enough to get irritated with sharing her birthday with the holiday season, we can celebrate 1/2 birthdays in the summer with pedicures at the pool!

Okay, so I’m a little excited, yes. But also? Terrified.



What do I DO WITH A GIRL? Y’all, I’m a boy mom. I don’t know shit about this girl business. How do I be a girl mom? What if I break her?

Kendall is 2 and already excited to share his love for “wowers” with his little sister. I’m nearly 19 weeks pregnant… and that means I’m nearly halfway there… and that means I have SO MUCH TO BUY!!

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  1. Congrats on your little girl! We swore our second son was going to be our first daughter, boy we were in for a surprise. I am kinda glad we had a second boy because I was the BIGGEST bitch as a teen. LOL!

    Embrace the pink, and ruffles, so when those teen years come, and the karma kicks in… you have the years upon years of girly pink picture revenge. LOL

  2. I knew it! Congrats! You’ll be just fine, girls are so much fun and so easy, at least up to 18 months, which is what I have experience with so far, ha! You’ll love it! Bring on the baby dolls and girly things, it’s so fun!

  3. I miiiight be sitting here saying, “Better you than me,” because I’m totally a Boy Mom, too.

    Congratulations. I’m excited to see all the adorable stuff you get to buy for your Baby Girl! 🙂

  4. Congratulations!

    I had my first girl last December (on the 28th) after three boys. And, I can tell you from experience you’ll figure it out. It’s amazing. And, the ruffles and dresses and headbands and girly stuff is so, so fun!

  5. YAY for little girls! I had 2 boys first, and WOW girls are different, but they are so wonderful and loving, you will adore being a mom to a little girl! The biggest hurdles for me were dealing with Tights (WTF?) and hair styles/hair clips. Also – use conditioner on her hair!! And then spray conditioner when her hair is towel dry – it’ll be a cinch to brush and will not be all static fly-away! And sundresses are the cutest thing ever invented!

  6. AHHH! It was totally my vote that swayed it, yup, taking total credit. Or not. Woohoo! Okay, you will not break her. Seriously. I have a girl. She eats dirt, she splashes in the tub, she loves ‘hop’ping like a frog and would love to have mud for a present. She also tries to put on my flip flops and picks out dresses to wear. In other words, she will be what you make her. We strive for a healthy balance of what we call ‘country girl’.. we live life ‘unwrapped’-scratch that bubble wrap off your list–but get some ruffle butts- cute is okay. We have some pink, but dress her in T-Rex stuff, too. You won’t break her. Any ?s. You’ve got my email!

    • You’re so right. I don’t know why I’m worried. I, of all people, was a total tomboy as a kid. LOVED mud and lizards and dump trucks and HATED Barbies and dresses. I don’t think I broke easily, either, but I know I wasn’t nearly as rough and tumble and tough and Kendall is 🙂

      • I second that! My little girl is all into making messes! She’s got perfect, pretty hair (that she hates wearing up) and looks adorable in dresses–but she always would rather be outside digging in the dirt!

        • I just want to modify one thing – she’ll be what she is. Sure, we can try to shove kids one way or another with a bunch of princess crap or tomboy stuff, but their true personalities will overrule programming.

          Oh, make that two things – please stop the drama talk. That is certainly a self-fulfilling prophecy and it just makes me cringe when I hear women fostering that terrible stereotype.

  7. As a girl, and a “girl mom”, trust me when I say girls are pretty hard to break. I have as many, or more, scars than my 3 older brothers and when ever my daughter, Amelia has fallen she is very quick to get up and laugh it off. =) Girls are awesome, and I’m sure that Kendall will be a great big brother and help “toughen” her up.

  8. I am so excited! You won’t break her!! You are going to be a girl mom before you know it! Buying hair bows and pretty sandals! YAY!!

  9. Before you had Kendall you’re weren’t a “boy” mom either… you figured him out all right. I know you’ll be as awesome a “girl” mom as you are a “boy” mom. So happy for you! Yay girl!

  10. I totally felt the same way when I was pregnant with Pierce. I am not really a girlie girl, never have been, so I hoped for a boy because I wouldn’t know what to do with a girl. Now that I have Pierce, though, I think it would be so fun for him to have a little sister and I’m really hoping our next is a girl.

    I’m sure you’ll do great! Congratulations!

  11. Oops, I was totally wrong. But I’m REALLY happy I was because I’m so excited for you to have a girl, Jill. I must live vicariously through all these other women who get to have a precious daughter! Cannot wait to see you go through this process of becoming a girl mom. I have no doubt you’ll be amazing. She’s gonna laugh a lot with you as her mom and I mean that in the best way! CONGRATS!

  12. Ha, I always think the exact opposite since I have a girl… “what if I have a boy someday? What would I do with a boy? I’m a girl mama.” My guess is that in the beginning, they’re basically the same and then you just adapt to their likes and dislikes as they grow. I can tell you that I love everything about having a girl. Congrats and good luck! I can’t wait to hear all about it 🙂

  13. Here’s where I put in my 2 cents.

    I have a daughter. She is the single most amazing thing that has ever happened to me. I have five brothers. I was sure I was going to have a boy and when the ultrasound revealed that I most certainly was not…

    I was terrified.

    Heres the thing…I cant ever tell you how angry I get when people talk about having daughters and the horribleness it might entail mostly because its women doing all the horrible talking. Here we are, grown women, deciding the future will be filled with tantrums, bad mouthing, “diva”-ness, stubborn, terrible things. My biggest question is…how are we to raise humble, good women while at the same time, we are bashing their very existence? Isnt it one of the most important things that we women stick together and create bonds?

    When I was just about to pop, I went into a local bakery and when the woman behind the counter asked what I was having, and I replied “a girl”, she ranted for at least 10 minutes about how unlucky I was, how I would only be blessed to have a son like hers, that I had it coming for me etc. I left bawling. How can WOMEN say such things?? This isnt an easy world to live in, why do we make it harder on ourselves by saying such bad things about little girls who depend on us?

    All I am trying to say here is that you have many years before you get to the difficult years and you should take them in and fill them with trying to make your daughter a good person (not that you wont) but dont focus on having a girl and seeing the future as something that it might not be. I will tell you this….my mother had me and 2 sons and said that raising me was a hundred times easier than my brothers…she said my mouthy teenage years were nothing compared to the drug addicted, self inflicting pain and abuse that my brothers endured.

    I say bring on the tough years, bring on the tantrums, she is my daughter and I will love her through thick and thin…its my job.

    Also, no. you will not break her. They arent fine china, they are kids….kids fall, bump, scratch and bruise no matter what is in their nether region.

    Also, Im not trying to be mean here at all and hope you dont take it that way…just voicing my opinions. I love your blog and your writing.

    Congrats. You’re going to be great!

    • I certainly don’t mean to make sweeping generalizations that all girls are drama monsters. I just know that *I* was, and that Karma’s a bitch. So I’m bracing myself. Of course, I know she can be anything, including drama free. I trivialize the “drama” aspect of it much like I worried about the “mess” factor when I found out I was having a son.

      And while I may have difficult years with her as a teenager, I’m certainly hoping to take advantage of what so many promise to be easier years as a toddler 🙂 I’m always a wee bit jealous of my friends with little girls right now because they never seem to give their parents as much grief as the boys at this age, at least in my experience so far.

  14. You know, I was frightened when I found out that #2 was a girl, b/c I’ve always known that I’m a boy kind of person. Lately though, I’ve started to really look forward to it. I don’t have to get rid of my Anne of Green Gables books, and one day we can watch Pride and Prejudice together. While it won’t be all frills and nail painting, I’m looking forward to forging a better relationship with her than I have with my mom. 🙂

  15. Congratulations! I guessed a girl on your poll. I don’t know how you felt whenever you found out you were having a boy with Kendall, but I know I was unsure if I would know what to do with a boy. Just like you figure out what to do with boys, you’ll figure out what to do with a girl! And, I have to admit, girls have wayyy cuter clothes and fun accessories 🙂

  16. Girls are great! Of course, I don’t have a boy (yet) to compare it to, but so far things have been fun and amazing. I mean, sure, she is great at throwing tantrums, and sometimes it hurts that she loves her DADDY more than anyone in the world (I’m told that is pretty typical), but when you look at that cute face, all the naughty things she’s done are selectively forgotten.

    Sure, I’m terrified of her teen years and my Mom laughs and says, “Haha–now you’re going to get everything back times 2…” but I figure I’ll worry about that when we get there.

    The most important thing to remember, in my opinion, is that your daughter (and son) will be a reflection on how you raised her/him. And of course, we know that we are doing a. perfect. job. 🙂

  17. When I was a girl, my mom so had it with me that she “cursed” me to have 5 girls just like me. I was a preschool teacher and loved loved loved me some little boys. I was so sure I was going to have a boy.
    SO when the tech said “Its a girl” I near about lost it. I was so scared. Finally my husband’s aunt, who has 2 teenaged daughters, said to me, Don’t worry about the teen years now. You build that relationship with your little girl and the teen years will be easier than you think. She also told me that she is enjoying her girls most now, as teens.
    So far, I think she’s right. I love my baby girl and couldn’t imagine if she was a boy. She loves dresses and shoes and her hair done (none of which I can stand) AND she loves being rough and tumble, flying everywhere!

  18. Ah…Girls are so much fun. Mine is a little princess daredevil great combination. Glad to hear she is healthy, Best of Luck with the rest of your pregnancy and having fun picking out all the little girly outfits.

  19. My birthday is Decembger 28th and although it can get a little crazy (my parents wedding aniversary is also the 27th) it means I am always around family. I used to do the half birthday thing, but now I love having one day that is all about me during a crazy time when everyone is around. I don’t mind leftover pie for cake, but I do make sure everyone knows to please wrap my birthday gifts in non holiday paper.

  20. Congrats! I was TOTALLY WRONG when I kept insisting you were having another boy! I’m hoping to be sharing some of your concerns next Wednesday when WE find out the gender of baby #2, although I have to say I will probably breathe a huge sigh of relief if it’s a boy. Boys seem easy in comparison to…all of that.

    We are totally going to celebrate half-birthdays too, which I think is the PERFECT solution to a birthday too close to Christmas to feel special.

  21. I happen to be a Christmas baby and I love it! Yes, it is a hectic time of the year with Christmas, New Years, and my parents anniversary is the 27th, but it means I am always around family for my special day.

    Oh, and please don’t wrap her birthday gifts in holiday paper. Big No No…

  22. i’m SO excited for you. and now i need more info! i really want a girl if i decide to go through the whirlwind of pregnancy, etc again. do you think it is all 50/50? do you think you did anything differently than when you conceived kendall? looks like that damn chinese calendar was right again! i need answers! 😉

  23. Congrats on having a girl!!! Girls are great!!!! I have 2 girls (2 1/2 and 2 months) and I can already see a future of PMS, hair pulling, prom dresses, and pedicures…… so far it’s been great! Even though my two and a half year old has mood swings comparable to that of a 16 year old girl, I still wouldn’t change a thing. However, I would love to have a boy down the road when we go for baby #3! Congrats again!!

    PS-I am OBSESSED with RiffleButts….

  24. CONGRATS!!!

    And I’m super, massively jealous! Think how cute it will be too when they are teens & Kendall gets to be the cool big bro who protects his sis and harasses all potential boyfriends. Plus all the insanely cute girl clothes, sleepovers, spa days etc.!

    I’m just holding out hope that one of our boys is gay so I can possibly have some of that.

    You’ll do great!

  25. Congrats! I’ve had fun following your blog since I am just a few weeks behind you with my pregnancy… I won’t find out what I’m having until the beginning of September (when I hit 20 weeks) but the more I read from “boy moms” and “girl moms,” the less I care. Either one will be so much fun. I have to say, though, ruffle butts are ADorable.

  26. Congrats! My daughter is a soul sister and kindred spirit through and through and I could go without ever having another child just because I already have her.
    When it comes to girls, it’s very simple–you, the mama, are in fact, a girl yourself. And quite frankly, all kids need the same things from their parents and any different treatment on that end is our own projections. She will be just like her brother with a variety of interests and strengths and weaknesses all independent from her uterus! lol It’s crazy how gendered our society is when kids are just kids, right? You, the bad-ass marathon runner, know all about strength, athleticism, and breaking boundaries. So too will that little baby girl you’ve got in there.
    And in total honesty? The clothes are a shit load more fun. For realz. 😉

  27. oh hooray hooray! MANY CONGRATS to ye! so exciting – i promise your bebeh lady will bring insane amounts of joy to your household. you are going to be a delightful boy AND girl mom! don’t even worry for a second. (;

    so exciting! oh, and we kept poppy’s name under strict lock & key until her birth. i think it’s awesome to hold on to that surprise and announce the name WITH the new baby.

    yay yay YAY! very exciting. ok i’m off to make your baby crafty treats. no kidding.


  28. Congrats!

    When I was pregnant with my second baby ( a surprise until birth), I was TERRIFIED of having a boy. After all, I was a Mom To A Girl. I posted about it here:


    The quick version of that? Just as you cannot, right now, imagine loving another baby with the all-consuming love you have for your first, so might it be hard to imagine a daughter afte a son. But she will be just what you need, and your heart WILL grow to fit her. It’s amazing how everything works out just as it should!

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  30. Oh honey, I am giggling like a school girl. My birthday is 12/27 and you sound just like my momma (well, minus the no-pink part. I’m 30 and she’d still like me in ruffles.) Her birtday is 6/27 and she threw me a half birtday party every year on her special day. If your little Capricorn is anything like this girl, well…

  31. Read your guest post over at Rasising Madison and had to stop by to tell you that I loved your post. :o)

    Also want to say congrats! I didn’t consider myself a girlie girl (still don’t), but something about putting bows and dressing my little girl up is fun. Best of luck!!

  32. Congratulations on your new little girl that is on her way! I just found your blog yesterday and am excited to get caught up. p.s. Pink is okay, just not the “ruffly” part.

  33. Yay! I spent so much time buying cute stuff for my nieces, so I knew I was going to have a boy… and sure enough, we are. It’s funny how people tend to feel they are a “boy mom” or “girl mom”. I have a feeling you’ll do just fine!

  34. I can’t believe I was right, and I hardly know you…I just found your blog yesterday! Congratulations. I love having a baby girl 🙂

  35. Congrats on the baby girl!

    I was exactly like you…a boy mom & then I had my daughter & my entire world turned over.

    She’s not even 2 yet but I can’t wait for all the fun themed parties…fancy nancy, mani/pedi parties, etc. She might even have a little tomboy in her since she’ll have an older brother & want to do EVERYTHING he does.

    You have so much to look forward to & truth be told girls always love & want their mamas & its the absolute best feeling in the world.

  36. I knew it was a girl, tacos and red meat that is what little girls are made of ( not sugar and spice). Also- I really am not a pink person but you kind of have to let it go- because 99% of the stuff for girls involves pink- and rejoice when you find something- anything in a different color palate.

    Also, my daughter was born at the end of January and I sooo plan on having half birthdays in the summer because my birthday is also in January and it sucks.

  37. Being a girl mom is AWESOME! And trust me, they don’t break. If anything, she will be tougher because she has Kendall as an older brother.

    I hope Scott is ready for this though. Little girls melt their daddy’s hearts in ways he can’t even imagine. Also? They NEED more clothes and it is impossible to resist anything with a ruffle. Just sayin’.


  38. Yaaaaayy Jill! That is awesome. Now you get the best of both worlds. 🙂 I think you’ll raise an amazing daughter!! And I totally love all the cute stuff too – hairbows, dresses, pretty sandals. I think all that can be there right along with the mud and dirt and bumps and bruises – I consider myself a very drama-free and down-to-earth person, and it sounds like you’re the same way. I attribute that to the way my parents raised me – I had all the girly stuff and was taught to be proper, but I got to play outside and do everything with my brother, from toy cars and racetracks to our treehouse and beagle. We had none of the spoiling and doting that I think often contributes to the diva attitude little girls can get. Don’t worry, you guys are gonna be awesome… and Kendall will keep her on her toes too – she won’t be able to escape the dirt even if she wants to. 🙂 I’m so excited for you to get to dive into this world now!! (PS – I think the pb&j theme is great!!)

  39. AAH! I am so excited for you!!! I’m a total boy Mom, and I don’t know what I’ll do if we wind up with a girl down the line, either, but I would LOVE it. Enjoy the pink, the purple, and all the dramatics– I am from a family of 4 girls… it’s a wild ride!

  40. I was a boy mom, too, and even proudly declared an obvious vagina a ‘penis’ because I couldn’t fathom having a girl after I’d acclimated to boys. All I will say is: don’t listen to anyone who tries to tell you girls are easier. My 1 yo girl is like a boy on steroids. Roid raging.

  41. I’m so excited for you! I was the girl that said “Bleh! I won’t drown my kid in PINK! I hate pink!!” Well you know the rest. Addy is totally about pink, purple, and princesses. 🙂

    You will have so much fun making her little dresses and planning her parties!

  42. Soo exciting! Girls are so much fun! I’ve never considered myself really feminine or girly. Truth is, I’m a little rough around the edges, I feel more comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt, and my feet scream “sneakers!” But having a daughter has made me more feminine and I love all things girly for her. Go figure! I think you figure it out along the way and your daughter, in a way, becomes your little doll and encompasses all the girlishness you don’t show outwardly.

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